Negotiation Steps for Wimps

Are you a negotiaphobe? Does the thought of actively participating in a debate-like discussion run chills through your spine? It’s OK – negotiaphobia is more common than one might think. The fact of the matter is that we spend so much of our time negotiating that it’s truly an integral skill to possess.

So, you’re a negotiation wimp … who cares? All you need to do is follow these five steps – which we pulled from the one and only One Minute Negotiator by Don Hutson and George Lucas – and you’ll be a pro:

STEP 1: PREPARE

Know who your opponent is. Do your best to understand his or her stance before you enter the negotiation. On the contrary, know your own stance. Do your research so you can cover all bases in case your opponent throws a curveball at you.

STEP 2: PARTNER WITH SOMEONE ON YOUR SIDE

Find yourself a strong ally before you enter the negotiation. Learn from him or her possible selling points you may not have thought of yourself. Having an ally will also pump you up with confidence, knowing you’re not the only one who believes in your case.

STEP 3: USE A CHECKLIST

The worst thing you could do is go into your negotiation and forget everything you stand for. Take a moment to write everything down. If you’re more visual, use a mind map. If you’re more of a perfectionist, write yourself a script. Don’t be ashamed to bring your checklist with you while negotiating; you may feel silly but you sure as heck won’t when you nail all your points.

STEP 4: ROLEPLAY

Role-playing is not just for children and theater geeks; hard-core negotiators do it, too. Find someone, perhaps your ally, who knows all your hard-selling points, and have him or her throw some sticks in your spokes – this will prepare you for the real negotiation and you’ll be far more prepared.

STEP 5: ALWAYS BE HARD ON DEAL POINTS AND SOFT ON PEOPLE

You don’t want to go into your negotiation like a harda** -- that usually doesn’t go over well. It’s intimidating and has a track record of pissing people off. Instead, lay down the law with your points, but be as kind as can be when addressing your opponent. You want him or her to like you and eventually agree with you. Entering your negotiation on your high horse is most likely not going to be effective. Stay grounded on your points, stay sweet to your opponent.

So, negotiation wimps, you have no excuses now! Just try out these five negotiation tips and you’re sure to be a pro soon. Negotiaphobia, what’s that?

[Photo from KingofGeorge.blogspot.com]

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